Baby Shower Dilemma?

anyways_fukitol
#1. January 19th, 2008, at 3:19 PM.

well do you and your friends and family have web cams? they can send you the stuff and have an online baby shower,i’m sure this hasnt been done b4 lol it could be fun : ] i say the sooner the better! in my case i was due august,5th he was born july,2nd. my baby shower was june 16th!! yea we cut it alittle close lol

angie_laffin927
#2. January 22nd, 2008, at 7:30 PM.

I would say do your families first, and I would actually try for December and have the other one in January for his co-workers. You usually want a month or so before hand to plan for possible bed rest, or (worst case) a premmie baby. Plus, it would be nice to organize all the new things and make sure everything is ready to go. Your family would be more understanding of a shower a little earlier because you are obviously closer to them relationship wise. Good Luck!

joliefemme24
#3. January 26th, 2008, at 3:52 AM.

you can have 2 showers…I’d say better after christmas….everyone is not so busy with family affairs and stuff like that and I don’t think it’s too soon or late to do it. Thta way you’ll have some time to buy things you need and didn’t get.

*Jessy*
#4. January 28th, 2008, at 2:45 AM.

Well, I would’ve loved a baby shower on Christmas, but that’s just me! My baby shower was done two months in advance, when I was 32 weeks along and I ended up going into labor two weeks later (34 weeks) my baby is now 7 months old. So I don’t think anytime after 7 months gestational age is too soon, ’cause you never know!

Momma Jo
#5. January 29th, 2008, at 8:10 AM.

Wow! I must be getting old. Are you throwing your own baby shower? If so, then make up your own rules. You can have it whenever you want. If you’re not due until March, I wouldn’t have it before Christmas. People are tapped out enough at that time.
Good luck. I live in Central Florida, so which one should I attend?

Cutebunny
#6. January 29th, 2008, at 2:22 PM.

Before I answer your question, may I know what is “a baby shower”?

♥♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥♥
#7. February 1st, 2008, at 11:02 PM.

You can have the shower whenever. My friend had hers in the summertime and her baby wasn’t born til mid october*she was a month late tho*

Seeing you are due in march. That is fine. You don’t want to have the shower at like 4 months along.

If you are telling what sex you are having you might want to tell everyone…or put it in your invitation…..so they know what exactly to buy….but things can be unisex.

And yes that is not fair to have someone drive 500 miles either direction.

JawBreaker
#8. February 4th, 2008, at 10:59 AM.

hey there! Congratulations on the new baby Have the coworkers of your husband throw you a small babyshower, nothing large and exstravagent since yall dont know eachother well. Then as for your family, drive there for the baby shower and have it in february, like you were saying. This one can me bigger since it is family. Sometimes you have to do seperate parties for one occasion due to location of friends and family. And about baby showers before or after christmas, it realyl shouldnt matter, but the after christmas and before your baby is due is the perfect time
good luck!
ps also remember to register at certain stores that are in your area as well as your families area in the south

anjelkake
#9. February 6th, 2008, at 10:25 AM.

Have the baby shower b4 Christmas, people are in the spending mood! But usually, a baby shower is held in the woman’s 7th or 8th month of pregnancy.

Be sure to require all gifts be given with gift reciepts, this will ensure if you get duplicates of something (baby swing or play pen) you can exchange with no problem.

Have separate showers. There’s nothing wrong with that at all.

mama3_vh
#10. February 7th, 2008, at 10:09 PM.

I would say, just have a baby shower with your family. If your husbands co_workers want to give you gifts, let them do it after the baby is born, if they so choose.

sierrabluegirl
#11. February 11th, 2008, at 2:33 AM.

first of all, congratulations on your pregnancy. secondly, the recipient doesn’t throw her own shower! your friends, and family should be doing that. in fact, way back when, even family wasn’t supposed to do it.
so, tell your family and your friends to do their ‘job’ and not expect you to!
January and February are excellent choices. first of all everyone is too busy prior to Christmas to stop and give a baby shower the attention it deserves, and secondly, how many times have we all said what a let down January and February are - nothing is going on and everyone is bored.
showers needn’t be expensive. i know the past few years everyone seems to have gone overboard with showers and gifts……your friends needn’t go to a lot of trouble. finger food, cookies, loaf cake and tea! easy and inexpensive.
good luck! relax! and get lots of rest!
sierra blue

Dolphin
#12. February 11th, 2008, at 5:19 AM.

I live in N. FL, too:) Anyway, Sounds like you have it figured out. I would def. wait until a month or so after Christmas to give attendees a chance to get back on the finacial track after a month of buying gifts for others. One in Jan and one in Feb at the two different locations sounds perfect! How exciting! Hope you get everything you need!!

erythisis
#13. February 12th, 2008, at 10:52 PM.

It’s okay to have two different showers when there’s different people attending each. The months are fine as long as you think you be up to participating is such activites.
There’s positive and negative to having the showers close to Christmas, either way, but at this point it may be easier to have the first party near the end of January. I had a mid-February shower, which was much earlier than what you’re looking at in terms of pregnancy (I was due in May), and nobody seemed to have a problem with that. They just wanted to help with the baby stuff!
You probably will also continue getting gifts outside the showers too, so make sure you have lots of Thank You cards too and remember who gave what.

marycatherine26
#14. February 15th, 2008, at 4:32 AM.

Girl…have as many showers as you need to have. Dont make people drive alot of miles to get to your shower…it will only cause you trouble making sure they all have a place to stay!!!

I am having three showers. I have lived three different places, and have close friends and family in all three places. I am having one here in Charleston, where we currently live, one in my home town in NC, and one in DC for the three years I lived up there. I would never make anyone drive more than an hour. Just create one registry somewhere and put that on all three invites.

Honey…if you have people in both places who want to throw you a party…then do two parties. Please dont make people drive that far!!! You come to them.

Also…best to make it more towards January after christmas, that is when my first one is!!!

Have fun…joyous time!!!

BASHFUL
#15. February 16th, 2008, at 12:55 PM.

I think that you have a good idea split the showers up because the one with the family will be more relaxed for you , and the other one you will be trying to get to know everyone and making them feel comfortable. I think that you should have them in the same month maybe a week or two apart that way you get it all over and done with. Then you can see where you will put everything before your baby arrives. Get everything over with in mid to late January, this way you will have time to relax and enjoy your last months because a babies arrival is sometime unpredictable.

nana4dakids
#16. February 19th, 2008, at 12:49 PM.

It is fine to have the two baby showers. Just register at stores that are in both areas and let everyone know. I would do the family one in January in South Florida because you really don’t want to be traveling too close to your due date in case the little bugger wants to arrive a little early. Have the North Florida one after the family one in late January or early February.

Good Luck and have fun.

JoesWifee
#17. February 20th, 2008, at 9:44 AM.

I’m kind of in the same dilemma as you are. I live in Los Angeles, but am originally from San Diego (about 150 miles apart). Most of my family and friends are in San Diego, but my husband’s family are in LA. I didn’t want anyone to travel far for my baby shower, but at the same time, I don’t want to segregate my families. At one point, I was telling my best friend not to go through all the trouble in throwing me one at all, but she insisted.

My husband’s sister asked me about it and said she would help throw one for me. I told her how I was feeling and she said that no one in my husband’s family had a problem traveling down to San Diego and that they’re just going to make a weekend out of it. They understood that it would be hard to accommodate all my friends and family up here. That’s not all, I also have friends at work and one of my co-workers was asking me about my baby shower. I wasn’t expecting to really invite a lot of people as I don’t want to make it such a huge thing. I told her that I was going to have it in San Diego and she offered to throw me one up here.

Are you throwing these baby showers for yourself? If my friends and family didn’t mention it, I wouldn’t throw one for myself, but that’s just me.

Good luck and congrats!