Comments on: Baby Shower Dilemma?

By: JoesWifee

JoesWifee — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 09:44:03 +0000

I’m kind of in the same dilemma as you are. I live in Los Angeles, but am originally from San Diego (about 150 miles apart). Most of my family and friends are in San Diego, but my husband’s family are in LA. I didn’t want anyone to travel far for my baby shower, but at the same time, I don’t want to segregate my families. At one point, I was telling my best friend not to go through all the trouble in throwing me one at all, but she insisted.

My husband’s sister asked me about it and said she would help throw one for me. I told her how I was feeling and she said that no one in my husband’s family had a problem traveling down to San Diego and that they’re just going to make a weekend out of it. They understood that it would be hard to accommodate all my friends and family up here. That’s not all, I also have friends at work and one of my co-workers was asking me about my baby shower. I wasn’t expecting to really invite a lot of people as I don’t want to make it such a huge thing. I told her that I was going to have it in San Diego and she offered to throw me one up here.

Are you throwing these baby showers for yourself? If my friends and family didn’t mention it, I wouldn’t throw one for myself, but that’s just me.

Good luck and congrats!

By: nana4dakids

nana4dakids — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 12:49:32 +0000

It is fine to have the two baby showers. Just register at stores that are in both areas and let everyone know. I would do the family one in January in South Florida because you really don’t want to be traveling too close to your due date in case the little bugger wants to arrive a little early. Have the North Florida one after the family one in late January or early February.

Good Luck and have fun.

By: BASHFUL

BASHFUL — Sat, 16 Feb 2008 12:55:06 +0000

I think that you have a good idea split the showers up because the one with the family will be more relaxed for you , and the other one you will be trying to get to know everyone and making them feel comfortable. I think that you should have them in the same month maybe a week or two apart that way you get it all over and done with. Then you can see where you will put everything before your baby arrives. Get everything over with in mid to late January, this way you will have time to relax and enjoy your last months because a babies arrival is sometime unpredictable.

By: marycatherine26

marycatherine26 — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 04:32:13 +0000

Girl…have as many showers as you need to have. Dont make people drive alot of miles to get to your shower…it will only cause you trouble making sure they all have a place to stay!!!

I am having three showers. I have lived three different places, and have close friends and family in all three places. I am having one here in Charleston, where we currently live, one in my home town in NC, and one in DC for the three years I lived up there. I would never make anyone drive more than an hour. Just create one registry somewhere and put that on all three invites.

Honey…if you have people in both places who want to throw you a party…then do two parties. Please dont make people drive that far!!! You come to them.

Also…best to make it more towards January after christmas, that is when my first one is!!!

Have fun…joyous time!!!

By: erythisis

erythisis — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 22:52:15 +0000

It’s okay to have two different showers when there’s different people attending each. The months are fine as long as you think you be up to participating is such activites.
There’s positive and negative to having the showers close to Christmas, either way, but at this point it may be easier to have the first party near the end of January. I had a mid-February shower, which was much earlier than what you’re looking at in terms of pregnancy (I was due in May), and nobody seemed to have a problem with that. They just wanted to help with the baby stuff!
You probably will also continue getting gifts outside the showers too, so make sure you have lots of Thank You cards too and remember who gave what.

By: Dolphin

Dolphin — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 05:19:14 +0000

I live in N. FL, too:) Anyway, Sounds like you have it figured out. I would def. wait until a month or so after Christmas to give attendees a chance to get back on the finacial track after a month of buying gifts for others. One in Jan and one in Feb at the two different locations sounds perfect! How exciting! Hope you get everything you need!!

By: sierrabluegirl

sierrabluegirl — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 02:33:13 +0000

first of all, congratulations on your pregnancy. secondly, the recipient doesn’t throw her own shower! your friends, and family should be doing that. in fact, way back when, even family wasn’t supposed to do it.
so, tell your family and your friends to do their ‘job’ and not expect you to!
January and February are excellent choices. first of all everyone is too busy prior to Christmas to stop and give a baby shower the attention it deserves, and secondly, how many times have we all said what a let down January and February are - nothing is going on and everyone is bored.
showers needn’t be expensive. i know the past few years everyone seems to have gone overboard with showers and gifts……your friends needn’t go to a lot of trouble. finger food, cookies, loaf cake and tea! easy and inexpensive.
good luck! relax! and get lots of rest!
sierra blue

By: mama3_vh

mama3_vh — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 22:09:32 +0000

I would say, just have a baby shower with your family. If your husbands co_workers want to give you gifts, let them do it after the baby is born, if they so choose.

By: anjelkake

anjelkake — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 10:25:41 +0000

Have the baby shower b4 Christmas, people are in the spending mood! But usually, a baby shower is held in the woman’s 7th or 8th month of pregnancy.

Be sure to require all gifts be given with gift reciepts, this will ensure if you get duplicates of something (baby swing or play pen) you can exchange with no problem.

Have separate showers. There’s nothing wrong with that at all.

By: JawBreaker

JawBreaker — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 10:59:29 +0000

hey there! Congratulations on the new baby Have the coworkers of your husband throw you a small babyshower, nothing large and exstravagent since yall dont know eachother well. Then as for your family, drive there for the baby shower and have it in february, like you were saying. This one can me bigger since it is family. Sometimes you have to do seperate parties for one occasion due to location of friends and family. And about baby showers before or after christmas, it realyl shouldnt matter, but the after christmas and before your baby is due is the perfect time
good luck!
ps also remember to register at certain stores that are in your area as well as your families area in the south